Life Is Not Perfect
PostedI started my blog for many reasons. One reason I wasn't going to blog is because I read a lot of family blogs that seem like life is perfect. To perfect. I knew that my blog wasn't going to be like that. And as you can see from my last posted it is definitely not a perfect family blog.
I have a teenager that is really hard. I haven't slept in days and have been keeping myself busy.
I don't like to omit it but I had my teenage daughter at a young age. Her father and I didn't stay together. He got custody of our daughter. Yah some judge thought that because he was working and I wasn't that she would be better off with him. NOT!
Anyways he re-married and had three more children and I also remarried and had three more children.
My teen has always had a temper and always rebelled against her step mother. (and yes this was an evil step mother, a real bitch)
Anyhow three years ago I got a call from the police saying she hit her step mother. Therefore she was not allowed to stay with her father and step mother at that time. So I was allowed to let her live here. (finally)
Although This was I think the worst thing I could have done. I did not get my daughter , I got an disrespectful, rude, angry teenager.
My younger children have suffered as we reached out and spent so much attention on our teen.
I think maybe I should have made her stay there and deal with her assault charge. (that was later dropped). Considering she is still violent, as you can see in my previous posting.
It has been three years that my husband and I have tried to get our daughter to go the straight and narrow. (We call her our daughter as my husband has been in her life since she was 2 1/2.)
At times we thought we were getting through. We went from a child that would throw herself on the floor in a fit.(At the age of 15) To talking about her problems. Even went to councelling.
The fight to even get her to go to school was hell. But we must have done something right as she is still attending school even after moving out.
She then has met this boyfriend. I don't care for much. But at least she has stopped running wild drinking and partying. I now know that she is not running the roads and is at his house most of the time.
I decided to write this post because I saw my daughter the other day downtown and she came up to me and told me she didn't come over to see me that she came over to see her brother.
I don't get it. I have tried and not sure what to do anymore. She has so many mood swings. One day she is fine with me and the next she hates me. Do I keep trying or just say fuck it all!?
I will of course keep trying but I also keep being told that she will come around and that we lose our teens at this age. But they do come back. I am not sure as I didn't raise her.
Sorry just getting things out.
Wow I am lost for words on this one, I truly hope things gets better for you my friend, I hate seeing people having to go through things like this.
Jesseb's
Thanks. I have had a lot going on here this week and haven't been visiting my favorate blogs! So I will catch up today.
Hang in there.
Your daughter sounds a lot like my sister. She's had mood swings like that most of her life, and they don't seem to be going away with age. If anything, they're getting worse. Even though she lives with my mom, the majority of the time she doesn't even speak to her. She has my nephew do the talking for her. When she does speak to her directly, it's usually in an ugly tone with an equally as ugly message. My sister has also had her share of violent episodes, so I understand that as well.
I actually think my sister is bipolar, based on all the articles and talk show's I've read and seen on the subject, but try telling her that. In her world, it's the rest of us who have problems, and she's the only perfect, stable one.
I don't know whether to tell you to keep trying or go the tough love route though. I keep wishing my mom will go the tough love route b/c, until my sister gets her act together, I think it would be better for my nephew, but I know my mom never will. I wish she could find a way to force her into therapy, but how do you do that to a 28 year old?
Maybe, as long as your daughter is still a teen, you still have a shot with her.
Staci
I have wondered about bipolar but the theripist didn't think so. We were in therapy for a while and she was in therapy for years when she lived at her fathers.
I think she is just a selfish spoiled give me what i want and I will get what i want kind of child. And hopefully she snaps out of if soon.
As for your sister. I thought the same thing when i was reading your post the other day. And thinking oh oh hope this doesn't last that long.